Love Lessons at 90

This weekend I had the distinct pleasure of celebrating Ben’s grandfather’s (also known as my BFF) 90th birthday. Yes, you read it correctly, he is officially 10 years away from being 100. To put it simply, he is one of the sweetest old fellas I know and filled with so much life, joy and wisdom. It was an honor for us both to be able to share that moment with him and the entire Velazquez family. Abuelo, to me (and I’m sure Ben would also agree) has always been the best example of unconditional love, and not just to his wife, but to his whole family. Listening to his brothers recount the vivid and heartwarming memories they have of him, only furthered my suspicions. Abuelo is an undercover lover. And in every sense of the word. He just loves people and loves being there for people. His love extends even beyond this life. Since his wife passed away a few years ago, Abuelo has never let a day go by without taking her flowers. If that isn’t a testament of true, deep, life changing love, I don’t know what is. This is what every man should strive to be like. Yes, he can be a bit of a funny guy sometimes (those of you who know him know EXACTLY what I’m talking about) but inside his heart is pure gold. I am so glad that I have him in my life and it is a blessing to know that my future husband comes from a line of such great men. It is refreshing to see a type of love that never dies.

This weekend I learned a lot of things. Among them was my appreciation for this dear, sweet old man, but another was a bit more unexpected. God always has this funny way of surrounding me with people who are just filled with the crisp knowledge of experience. A dear mentor, and close friend of the Velazquez family really made the word love real for me after we spoke on friday. Every time I get the chance of speaking with her I am just amazed with everything she says. Her perception of the world and of people in general is so amazing to me and I love hearing the advice she so kindly extends to me every time she’s around. That night we laughed and joked about many things, but the thing that stood out most in my mind is her sheer dedication to her husband. She spoke to me about marriage and family and it just really gave my heart so much peace to speak with her. And although I’ve known her for a short while in comparison to my husband to be, she really holds a special place in my heart.  I thank God so much for her and for the special blessing of her friendship. This weekend I was just extremely blessed by the words of so many amazing woman and I am so grateful to be able to call them my family. It’s amazing how God uses every single person around you to teach you, and it’s wonderful to be able to look up to wonderful couples and look forward to the beauty of being married. I can’t wait to be married to such an amazing man, and to be officially part of his loving family. I encourage all recently engaged/newlyweds to take a moment and seek/listen to the advice of older and wiser couples, it’s always great to see life from a different angle and you never know when that small piece of advice will come in handy. Cherish your loved ones, but especially those who have ridden down that long winding path called life.

 

Xo,

J.