How to Enjoy the Blessing of Having Friends Who are Engaged

Growing up I was really into the show “Friends.”  I loved the idea of having my best friends at such a close proximity, so the show really appealed to me. I, too, had two girl best friends who oddly enough resembled the characters on the show. One of my favorite episodes was when Monica and Chandler got engaged. Monica was so excited because she was finally going to have her dream wedding. And as luck would have it she runs into Rachel…who just happened to be making out with her on again off again boyfriend (who also happened to be Monica’s brother), Ross.


Here’s the clip: Friends – Rachel Steals Monica’s Thunder (you can fast forward to 2:50 if you’re impatient and don’t appreciate good television)



I can’t tell you how many times my best friend, Mouriel and I have quoted this episode. Thankfully, we’re always extremely careful about stealing each other’s thunder, hahaha.

But I’m sure we’ve all felt the same way Monica does, on different occasions. To be honest, I thought I was going to flip out like Monica did in that episode when everyone around me started getting engaged right after I did. But thank GOD I didn’t….ok so maybe I did. Many of you know me so well that I couldn’t pull that one past you, haha.

To be entirely honest, initially I did flip out just a tad because I’ve been waiting for this moment for NINE YEARS (give a girl a break, that’s a long time!), so I wanted to enjoy this moment by myself and be selfish, blah blah blah. But God showed me how terribly wrong I was, and just how much of a blessing it was to be able to share this moment with my friends! It’s such a beautiful thing to be engaged at the same time as those around you. You can to share your joys, stresses, and even share resources to make the task of wedding planning even easier! But above all else, you can strength your bond with your friends. I am so grateful that God smacked me back into reality and changed my view on this whole situation. YES it would’ve been cool to be the only engaged couple in the world, but let’s stop being crazy and be realistic…it’s totally impossible and definitely not as fun! And to be honest, I like this better. It’s awesome to be able to talk “wedding” with my friends that are engaged, it’s almost like sharing the load in a way and it always helps to know that you aren’t alone (and that you aren’t totally insane for taking 4 months to decide on your final decor for your reception).

All in all, I thank God so much for putting all these amazing people around me during this very sweet time in our lives. I know I’m not perfect, nor do I pretend to be so it’s nice to come here and candidly share with you all of my experiences. But if there’s any advice I could give it would be:  Enjoy it! This process is WAY too awesome to worry about if other people are getting engaged too. Not just that but EVERY wedding is different because it is composed of two DIFFERENT people who love each other. At the end of the day what matters is that you love each other and that God is the center of your marriage (and of your life for that matter)! Hope this helps you as much as it helped me.

 

Also, HAPPY EASTER! Isn’t it awesome that we can celebrate the biggest demonstration of LOVE of all time?! I think so. :-)

 

Xo,

J.